They’re PLAYING Us. It’s Time to Strengthen the Sisterhood



By Laura Miller

Commonly I stray away from male bashing; and today is no exception.


Women this message is for you, you are no different from the SIDE CHICK, THE WIFE, THE SINGLE WOMEN, THE FAST GIRLS, THE BRICKHOUSE, THE ATHLETIC CHICK, THE SMART CHICK, THE GIVER CHICK, THE NATURAL HAIR CHICK, THE WEAVE WEARING CHICK, THE CHICK WHO MADE THE BAD CHOICES IN MEN, THE EDUCATED CHICK, THE CHICK THAT WORKS AT MCDONALDS, THE SINGLE MOTHER, OR THE CAREER WOMAN; we are all women, and we should take pride in each other’s experiences.


We shouldn’t pit one against the other, or feel superior over another; this is what divide us.


We separate ourselves from each other, rather than unify and this is a grave mistake.


Recently, I read an article about some young silly male rapper--whose name does not matter--and he stated that Black men have decent role models but Black women do not; that we only have the "reality show" types as heroes.


This rapper added that young girls don’t look up to Michelle Obama, Oprah, and those “types” of women. He basically said that Black women are hopeless. Obviously, I almost fell out of my chair!


I thought his statements were ridiculous, short sided, and extremely off-base.


However, here’s what I’ve noticed, men can have whatever opinion they want about us, and it seems that we continue to love on them and fawn over them and turn on our fellow sister, just to get one.

The rationale is usually, “He’s not talking about me; I’m not that type of woman”.


Do we love and fawn on each other?

If a musician writes misogynistic music, do you buy the album? Are we actively supporting our sisters in our efforts? Are we encouraging those women that need encouragement?


However, on all forms of social media, I see women being objectified through MEME, women cursing each other out, and basically exhibiting ugly behavior that all of our ancestors would disapprove.


Even writing this puts me in a position where some woman can say, “Yeah she’s uppity. She thinks she’s better than everyone else.”


What is that really?


Why do we instantly find a way to discredit one another? There’s no benefit to it whatsoever, and it makes us all look bad.


We will never be able to crawl from under men, if we don’t spend time supporting one another or at the bare minimum, hating LESS on each other!


When we separate ourselves from one another another, we become targets for those who wish to disrespect and degrade us.


I’ve seen media vilify female victims of domestic violence, drug abuse, and all sorts of women who need help and support.


We need to stop participating in the negativity and stand up for ourselves, because men won’t do it for us.