ARE YOU A NICKEL LOOKING FOR A DIME?


By Shoya Bowman

I listened to the song, "Statistics," by Lyfe Jennings, as I cruised down the outer drive the other day, and I couldn't help but bob my head to the melody. Jennings was right on target with the lyrics, "Don't be a nickel looking for a dime."

A dime is a perfect 10. A nickel is the half- way mark. These days, it seems as if the nickels are attracted to, and actively seeking, dimes.


Throughout the course of your life, you've been told to set your standards high, raise the bar, reach for the stars, and by all means never settle.


Although these statements hold true, I must ask, what makes you such an irresistible catch to the dime? I had to take stock of myself years ago, and this is the perspective that helped me to prepare for a dime, by becoming a dime.


I've come across numerous wish lists from both women and men while attending relationship

chats, visiting the salon, having personal conversations and/or perusing online dating profiles. Time and again, these singles have detailed specific qualities and must-haves in a potential mate. These individuals are so determined to get exactly what they want that they even point out deal-breakers that won't be compromised.


I find it quite interesting, downright entertaining at times, that these folks are seeking qualities, material possessions, or financial quotas that even they are lacking.

Hence, they are nickels looking for dimes, and many nickels are looking on internet dating sites. The wonderful thing about social media is that a man can be whomever he desires to be. The unfortunate reality is that authenticity does not rank high in this dating arena.

Most of us realize that materialistic things alone will not enrich your life, but there are others that live under the notion that they need material items to be validated.


If your prerequisite is to have a partner that owns a home, drives a fancy car, holds a degree from a prestigious university, and has a high profile position at work, isn't it only fair that you should obtain the same?


Why are you concerned with the amount of money someone else has in their bank account when your own mailbox is overflowing with Non-Sufficient Funds statements from the bank?

I believe in making my own dreams come to fruition instead of sitting back twiddling my fingers and waiting on that special someone to make them come true.


In the words of my mother, "God bless the child that's got her own."


WORK ON YOURSELF FIRST; MAKE CERTAIN THAT YOU'RE BRINGING SOMETHING TO THE TABLE FOR THAT POTENTIAL HIGH-QUALITY MATE.